I want to share my notes from a class called, “Till I die, I will not remove mine integrity from me.”
Before I do though, wow, did I get a lot more chatter on that home organization post than I expected! It was great. There are two afterthoughts I’d like to add on to that post:
- That particular class was more practical in nature than spiritual, thought it obviously had some spiritual underpinnings and spiritual applications. Two different speakers basically presented in a “here are some things that have worked for me” attitude. The things I included in my notes were simply things that I thought might work in my family, or at very least, were worth remembering and trying. Trying to implement them all, especially all at once, would probably lead to certain death. I just thought there were many good ideas.
- I need to make a confession. A couple weeks ago, for the General Conference Book Club, I planned on doing that talk about the “temple home,” but when I read the part about your home being clean and orderly, I immediately disqualified it, because as I told my friend, “I just wasn’t ready for that yet.” I didn’t want the guilt, and I needed to come to better terms with what realistic expectations are for myself and my own situation.
So I’ve given it quite a bit of thought, and I’ve decided that it would take some kind of heartless, robotic mother to keep her home in temple condition around the clock. However, I’ve also felt that if we approach our housekeeping as an extension of our covenants and with the desire to make our home a welcome dwelling place for the Spirit, and if we go about our duties with that kind of purpose in mind (recognizing the work as a symbol of our Savior’s mission and also as a service to the spiritual development of our children), I think we’re in a good place. Then it becomes like what I’m realizing a LOT of the gospel is about: a PROCESS. And what we become as we try is much more important than actually achieving a playroom that looks like the celestial room. 🙂
As I thought about that, I got a new insight into the whole Mary and Martha story. Martha’s mistake was not trying to clean up her home after dinner, it was simply missing the whole point of doing it in the first place. We do all that cleaning and organizing, etc. in an attempt to make our homes a place where the Spirit of the Lord can dwell, but He was already THERE. In person. She had already made a place where He felt comfortable and welcome, so she needed to LET IT GO, sit down, and just listen to Him teach. We need to do that, too. Pause from all our DOING, and make time for more LISTENING. He doesn’t want a perfect home; He just wants to know you want Him to drop in. Hope that makes sense.
So, um, yeah, how ’bout we actually learn a little something about the title of this post? The first speaker told a story about how she was shocked when one of her 7-year-old daughter’s friends invited her to a play date and then the girl’s mother nonchalantly explained that they lived in a “clothing-optional” community, and would that be a problem? More shocking to her than the actual question was the fact that she was now going to have to have a conversation with her second-grade daughter about why clothing was not optional in their family. We have to start early to explain what we believe and why we choose the right even when others do not share, understand, nor applaud our choice.
You know what? This post is getting too long too fast, and I need to go to bed! Let’s chew on that home organizing stuff for one more day, and let your brains think about what this — my favorite Young Women’s Value (Integrity) — means to you: “I will have the moral courage to make my actions consistent with my knowledge of right and wrong.” I’ll finish up what I learned from the class, and we’ll discuss. See you tomorrow night.