General Conference Book Club Week 24: Bishop Burton

Two more weeks until Conference and I’m almost this excited.

Almost.

This week we will study the talk “Let Virtue Garnish Your Thoughts” by Presiding Bishop H. David Burton.  He spoke during the Sunday morning session and highlighted a list of characteristics that he called the “-ity” virtues.

“Virtuous traits form the foundation of a Christian life and are the outward manifestation of the inner man. The spelling in English of many individual virtues concludes with the letters ity: integrity, humility, charity, spirituality, accountability, civility, fidelity, and the list goes on and on.”

If virtues are lost, families will be measurably weakened, individual faith in the Lord Jesus Christ will soften, and important eternal relationships may be jeopardized.”

Share your favorite parts and insights in the comments.  You can go here to find the links to watch or listen to this talk.  And here you will find more information about the GCBC– We’ll start over again in a couple weeks and would love to have you join us.

Any basketball fans out there?

I’ve always loved March because I’m a basketball fan, and college basketball is the best of all.

The first time I ever did a March Madness (NCAA tournament) challenge was with my older cousin Todd and all his roommates and buddies.  I was 19 and they were all returned missionaries.  They each put some money in the pot and the winner took all.  Boy, were they embarrassed when they all got beat by a GIRL.

I remember sneaking out of my Latin American History class in March to run home and watch some of the Final Four games.  I even left all my books and papers and backpack at my desk to make it “look” like I was just running to the bathroom or something, but I really went off campus all the way over to a friend’s apartment to watch the game and then went back later to recover my items.

I love to challenge friends to make bracket picks, and I’m competitive about it.  It’s fun. I love it.  Especially if I win.  And even though I don’t watch any of the regular season games anymore (Children seriously altered my TV watching habits), I still love to make tournament picks and watch the March Madness tournament games as much as I can.

So, anybody want to play along?  The NCAA brackets were all just announced and the first round of games starts on Thursday.  I created a group at CBS Sports.com called Cyber Moms.  Go in and make your picks.  Trust me, it’s fun, even if you have no idea who the teams are.  I’ll come up with some awesome prize for the winner.  (Let’s be honest, it will probably be chocolate and some of my favorite books, but I’ll try to spice it up a little.)

Go to this link, create your own user name and make your bracket picks.  You’ll automatically be a part of the CyberMoms group.  The password is momsrule.  C’mon, it’ll be a blast!!  I’ll try really hard not to trash talk anyone.  Please?

(Matt, you’re invited, too, of course!  And my brother, and anyone else who wants to play along even if you’re not a mommy blogger.)

Let’s talk about books, baby. Let’s talk about you and me…

The title of this post is inspired by a popular song in the 90s that my roommates and I might have been blasting loudly through our open windows once when our home teachers arrived.  Ahem.  Where’s that stupid life eraser when you need it?

Anyway,

Books.

Only in the past year have I begun to read books again.  I have a college minor in English Teaching, people, and for the last 7 years, I have stumbled through an almost completely bookless fog of raising little children.  If you are currently in that fog and long to read something besides Maisy goes to the Hospital or the nutritional information on a box of Fruit Loops, you are normal.  And I promise you that the time when you and your brain become reacquainted is not as far, far away as it seems.

So my brain and I have begun a new quest for literature.  Toward the end of 2009, I read The Guernsey Potato Peel Pie and Literary Society.  Lots of people had mentioned it on their blogs, so I got curious enough to try it out, and I really liked it.  I also read Dan Brown’s Angels and Demons because I eventually want to read The DaVinci Code and I had heard that A&D was the prequel.  (By the way, I saw the movie after I read the book and there were some MAJOR plot deviations that bugged me.)  Despite that fact that I’ve seen all the Jane Austen movies several times, I had not read any of the books, except for one back in 2003 when I went on a cruise.  So last month, I read all three favorites:  Sense and Sensibility, Pride and Prejudice and Persuasion.  Loved them, of course.  Somewhere in there, I also read The Journal of Curious Letters, book one in a trilogy called The 13th Reality by James Dashner.  I have to admit that young adult sci-fi is not usually my genre of choice, but I figured that since the author took me to Homecoming in high school, I ought to give it a try.  It was pretty darn good, and I think any of your kids that liked Harry Potter would like James’ series.

Let’s see, what else?  (Be right back, I’m going to check Goodreads.com.)  Oh that’s right.  I started Wuthering Heights but didn’t really like it so I didn’t finish.  Is that bad?  I loved, loved, loved Jane Eyre.  It was the first one I read on my return to literature.  I couldn’t believe I’d never read it before.  Matt recently read The Undaunted by Gerald Lund and thinks I’ll like it.  I just finished Anne Frank: Diary of a Young Girl and right now I’m reading the “authorized” biography of Mother Teresa.

Here’s my current “Books I want to read list.”  There are so many that I feel like I should have read AGES ago but I never have yet:

John Adams (Paperback) by David McCullough John Adams (Paperback)
The Hiding Place (Mass Market Paperback) by Corrie Ten Boom The Hiding Place (Mass Market Paperback)
With Malice Toward None: A Life of Abraham Lincoln (Paperback) by Stephen B. Oates With Malice Toward None: A Life of Abraham Lincoln (Paperback)
Man's Search for Meaning (Mass Market Paperback) by Viktor E. Frankl Man’s Search for Meaning (Mass Market Paperback)
Les Misérables (Penguin Classics) by Victor Hugo Les Misérables (Penguin Classics)

So, help me out, O wise readers, and build my request list at the library.  Please.  (I almost forgot my manners.)

1.  What books have you always wanted to read and never have?

2.  Out of all your reading, if you could give me one or two must-reads, what would they be?

3.  I’m not in the mood for dark, depressing stuff.  (This is also why I never finished Crime and Punishment.)  I can appreciate it sometimes, but lately I’m in the mood for inspirational literature.  What’s been one of your favorite inspiring books?

And if you read any LDS literature, do me a favor and fill out this quick survey for my author friend, Rebecca Irvine.  It’s only 8 questions and helps her with some market research.

Thanks!  I can’t wait to see your recommendations.

p.s.  I am kind of a book prude, so show a tiny bit of restraint in your suggestions.  If the book cover looks anything like this, consider me uninterested.  (Sorry, Kristina and DeNae. *wink*)

General Conference Book Club Week 22: President Monson

“We thank thee, O God, for a prophet . . .”  Come on, sing along with me . . . “to guide us in these latter days . . .”

Man, it’s so easy to take for granted the HUGE blessing of knowing that our Heavenly Father has a spokesperson on earth that He has called as a prophet, seer, and revelator.  And when I study President Monson’s words, I’m often humbled that God’s most important message to us is not some great mystery of the gospel, but a gentle call to be more like His Son.  Such is the case in President Thomas S. Monson’s conference talk, “What Have I Done For Someone Today?

“Those who live only for themselves eventually shrivel up and figuratively lose their lives, while those who lose themselves in service to others grow and flourish—and in effect save their lives.”

“We become so caught up in the busyness of our lives. . . too often we spend most of our time taking care of the things which do not really matter much at all in the grand scheme of things, neglecting those more important causes.”

“That service to which all of us have been called is the service of the Lord Jesus Christ.  As He enlists us to His cause, He invites us to draw close to Him.”

You can read his talk here, or watch it, or listen to it.  (Learn about GCBC here.)  He gives examples of simple service that are evidence of hearts that love the Lord.

What have YOU done for someone today (I bet you’ll find it’s much more than you give yourself credit for.)?  And in answering his challenge to give more time to things that matter, what pastime can you give up today or this week to make room for an act of kindness?

Sunday leftovers

I had a guest post over at Segullah yesterday.  I felt nervous like the new girl at school who gets assigned to work with the group of cool girls, but there were nice comments, so maybe I won’t have to go into hiding after all.

I also gave a talk in church yesterday.  I was assigned the topic of obedience, and I took the majority of my take on it from President Uctdorf’s talk, “The Love of God.” I thought I’d share some segments from my talk in case you’re interested.  And if you’re not interested, feel free to pull out some toy mice that you hid in your pocket and swing them around in the air by their tails like a cowboy lasso.  That’s what my kids did on the front row.

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Rites and practices of the law of Moses pointed people’s actions and habits toward Christ, like the practice of burnt offerings and animal sacrifices.  But when he came, he declared these old laws to be done away with and introduced the New Covenant, a higher more personal commitment that points us to a full discipleship —  This is how he explained it right before appearing to the frightened and devastated Nephites in America (3 Nephi 9)

9 And ye shall offer up unto me ano more the shedding of blood; yea, your sacrifices and your burnt offerings shall be done away, for I will accept none of your sacrifices and your burnt offerings.

20 And ye shall offer for a asacrifice unto me a broken heart and a contrite spirit. And whoso cometh unto me with a broken heart and a contrite spirit, him will I bbaptize with fire and with the Holy Ghost,

The Lord is more concerned with our hearts than our actions, though a heart committed to the Lord is reflected by a life rich in Christian principles, righteous living, and loving service.  Obedience is evidence of a heart that loves the Lord.

Sometimes, even at church, almost in a law-of-Moses kind of way, we feel bombarded by long lists of “should do”s that can overwhelm and discourage us.  I recently overheard a talk by a local leader where the speaker imparted a long list of all the things she had done in her home to raise a large family in the gospel.  Her strategy included family scripture study twice a day with child-led devotionals, traveling with her children throughout the world to expose them to cultures and service opportunities, attending the temple weekly even when her children were small and returning home each time testify to her family of the miracles that had happened there, regularly inviting her children’s friends into their home to hear the gospel, and that’s not all, but I can’t remember the rest because I’d already gone numb.  President Uctdorf said:

This may present a problem for some because there are so many “shoulds” and “should nots” that merely keeping track of them can be a challenge. Sometimes, well-meaning amplifications of divine principles—many coming from uninspired sources—complicate matters further, diluting the purity of divine truth with man-made addenda. One person’s good idea—something that may work for him or her—takes root and becomes an expectation. And gradually, eternal principles can get lost within the labyrinth of “good ideas.”

How true this is.  I think how easy it is, especially after something like the talk I described, to walk away with a to-do list that overshadows our real purpose in coming to church.  We come to take the sacrament and in so doing, we particpate in repentance, renewal of our covenants, a commitment to always remember Him, and a promise to have his spirit to be with us.   These are all tasks of  and functions of the heart— they are expressions of our love for God and reminders of His love for us.

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Commandments are not meant to be checklists that mark our worthiness.  We can drown in our to-do lists and become paralyzed by what seems impossible to accomplish.  When we fail to establish realistic priorities, we cannot accomplish our goals nor the Lord’s purposes.

Elder Dallin H. Oaks, “Good, Better, Best”:

Some uses of individual and family time are better, and others are best. We have to forego some good things in order to choose others that are better or best because they develop faith in the Lord Jesus Christ and strengthen our families.

What may be surprising is that when juggling good, better, and best, the best (and most important) is really quite small and not that demanding.  In response to a question I asked Sister Julie Beck when she visited here in the fall, she stated, “We place demands on ourselves that the Lord would never place on us.”

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The key to obedience is loving God and understanding his love for us.  Really what it comes down to is building and nurturing a personal relationship with our Heavenly Father and his Son Jesus Christ.  This is the “BEST” part of good better and best—doing things that maintain that relationship.  These are the most commonly taught principles of the gospel:  read your scriptures to know and understand the character of God, say your prayers to know and feel the mind of God and nurture communication with him, and serve others (both within and without the church) to understand his love for his children.  In doing these things, we get to know God.  We cannot help but love him the more we know him, and we automatically WANT to repent and become more like Him.  President Uctdorf testified:

When we truly understand what it means to love as Jesus Christ loves us, the confusion clears and our priorities align. Our walk as disciples of Christ becomes more joyful. Our lives take on new meaning. Our relationship with our Heavenly Father becomes more profound. Obedience becomes a joy rather than a burden. …

Love is the measure of our faith, the inspiration for our obedience, and the true altitude of our discipleship. Love is the way of the disciple . . .

My dear brothers and sisters, don’t get discouraged if you stumble at times. Don’t feel downcast or despair if you don’t feel worthy to be a disciple of Christ at all times. The first step to walking in righteousness is simply to try. We must try to believe. Try to learn of God: read the scriptures; study the words of His latter-day prophets; choose to listen to the Father, and do the things He asks of us. Try and keep on trying until that which seems difficult becomes possible—and that which seems only possible becomes habit and a real part of you.

I know that a broken heart and a contrite spirit is enough for God.  And I also know that feeling his love as I obey his personal guidance in my life is enough for me.