My name is Makamae (rhymes with Rock-a-bye, and I’m going to go ahead and answer your question, “What does that mean?” It means Precious, in Hawaiian. And yes, I am part Hawaiian), I’m 27, and I am “currently” living in southwestern TX in a border city. My husband and I will be moving our things to Florida in a few weeks before he deploys to the Middle East, but I will be living with his parents in Colorado while he is deployed. I’m not a bona fide mother yet (though I hope to be in the future), but I like reading this blog anyway. My husband is in the Air Force and because of that, life is truly an adventure.
I grew up in Southern California, and while I love visiting home, I do not think I would ever voluntarily choose to live there. I am the middle child of five kids (three sisters, one brother), and that was a pretty fun adventure. We didn’t have a lot growing up, so we were creative little bedlamites. I went to school in the good old town of Rexburg at BYUI. I majored in elementary education, and before I go any further, I have to say that choosing that major was a struggle for me because I did not want to do what everyone else was doing. In fact, I purposely avoided doing this major for about 2 years before I gave in and was true to myself. I picked that because I knew it was a major that would help me to be a better mother, and that was something I felt I needed to pursue. I graduated from there and taught for a while in Utah County, and that is where I met my husband.
1. What’s your favorite part of motherhood? I am not a “real” mother, so I do not think I could ever answer this question the way any of you could or would. But I’d like to share things from the daughter perspective. My own mom died about five and a half years ago, and I guess you could say that no matter how long it has been, that void can never be filled. You don’t “get over” the death of your mother. But my mom was a great example to me and what I loved about her motherhood was that she was always there for us and protected us in any way she could. I know mothers don’t get the immediate gratification they might want, need, or deserve. But maybe I could speak for your kids when I say that the work you are all doing as mothers is greater than any other occupation on earth. Mothers are the unsung heroes of the earth & I can’t wait to join y’all!
2. Name 2 or 3 items on your “bucket list.” (Some things you’d like to do before you die.) One of the things I want to do, and am terrified that I won’t be able to do is to be a mom. I’m not saying I don’t think I can, I just don’t know what God has in store for me but I’d like to have my own kids. Another one is to train in MMA (Mixed Martial Arts). Maybe that is a bit unconventional, since this is not really a womanly thing to do. My purpose would not be to get into the octagon to get beat like those men like to do, but really just to get a different work out and to be able to defend myself if I needed to do so. I would also like to write a book. I love children’s literature, and every time I read a book I think to myself, “I could totally do this.” And yet, I haven’t. But I hope to someday.
3. Brag for a minute. Do it. What are a few things that you’re pretty good at? I am pretty good at cooking. I will whip up something in the kitchen if I get bored (and yes, I do get bored. Remember, I’m not a mom yet). I am also pretty good at dancing, which is sort of an unfortunate thing since my husband hates dancing (sad face). I get that out of my system by doing zumba. I’m also awesome at cleaning. I can’t tell you how many people have enlisted me to help them clean their houses before they move out (and its a lot; I live on an Air Force base). And I’m good at laughing at things that should make me angry.
4. What are you loving lately? Nieces & nephews. I have two nieces on my husband’s side and two nephews on my side. And they are all so adorable. I love to dote on them and spoil them, and then give them back to “mom & dad” when they get ornery. I know my day will come (or so I hope), but for now, being a fun auntie is something I love & enjoy.
5. Do you have a favorite scripture or quote? Why? I have a lot of favorite scriptures, but the one that came to mind today was 1 Corinthians 15:22. When I think of this scripture, it automatically makes me think of my mom. “For as in Adam all die, even so in Christ shall all be made alive.” Its a reminder that I will see her again someday.
6. What do you gravitate toward during your unscheduled time? I read blogs, check facebook, edit photos, etc. And when I have access to a piano, I play that. I’m trying to have genealogy be something I just automatically do, but that has proven to be difficult. I’m working on it.
7. What’s something you don’t usually want people to know about you, but that they need to know if they’re going to be your friend? I am annoyingly competitive (and I hate that I am… I wish I didn’t care about winning sometimes), but I deny that I am. Can I just say right here that my husband is so good & patient with me?
8. Friends are great for venting. What’s been frustrating you lately? I don’t want to complain about the Air Force, because they do provide a job for my husband, and they did pay for him to become a pilot. But the statement, “You never know…” is becoming so true for my life & experience in the Air Force. In short, the only thing I can be certain of in the Air Force is that life is uncertain.
9. What parts of your testimony are you the most sure of? I am sure that God loves us all, regardless of what race, religion, or socioeconomic status we hold. I am sure that Jesus Christ died for our sins, our pains, and our weaknesses. I am sure that He speaks to us today through a prophet of God. I am sure that temple marriages are meant to last forever, and that it takes some work on our parts to make it an eternal marriage. I am sure that eternal families are part of God’s plan, and these families are what help us along the way to become better people. I am sure that repentance works, and that even when people give up on us, Jesus Christ never does and never will. I know that this is the true Church, run by people chosen of God.
10. Let’s say you’re dying in your sleep tonight. What would you eat for your last meal? Is this a three course meal? If so, I would have a chopped antipasto salad from Buca Di Beppo’s, BJs Favorite Pizza-Deep Dish from BJ’s Brewhouse & Restaurant, and a slice of red velvet cheesecake from The Cheesecake Factory. And I would eat every last bite.
11. What’s something unexpected in your life, and how have you dealt with it? My husband was assigned to Whiteman AFB in Missouri “flying” drones this fall. When a pilot “flies” unmanned planes, he controls the airplane from a room in a building on the Air Force base where he is assigned. This assignment meant less deployment, a “normal” 8-5 work day, etc. This assignment was given in January, and then the beginning of May, we are told that he is no longer going to be doing that assignment, and that he would be flying MC-12 (a reconnaissance airplane that is heavily undermanned right now) for 6-9 months in either Iraq or Afghanistan, maybe even Saudi Arabia. And then we were also told he would be flying the KC-135 (air refueler) upon his return out of Florida. I honestly have no idea why I ever trust the Air Force when they tell us that something is going to happen, because my experience has been that almost always they are going to change on you. As a result of this changed assignment, I went on vacation for a month and a half (I still am; I am at my in-laws in Colorado right now) while he did survival & water survival training in Washington state. Dealing with him being gone is always easier when I am around family. And the whole Florida thing makes me pretty happy. Season passes to Disneyworld!
12. If your life had a theme song, what would it be and why? “This Too Shall Pass” by OK Go. Life is hard (even when you’re not a mom). And one thing I love about the scriptures is that it always says, “And it came to pass…” It never says, “It came to stay…” There are good times and hard times, but its what we choose to do with it that makes life better or worse.
Tell us about your blog: I actually have a few blogs, but the one Stephanie has read periodically is Sweet & Simple Truths of the Gospel. I started this blog as a means to do missionary work, and to provide a place where my friends could read about what I think and believe about God and Jesus Christ (non-confrontational style). If they had questions, they would ask. Often times, I’ve found myself just writing my thoughts concerning spiritual matters on there not necessarily just straight doctrine. And I’ve been terrible at posting on that, so forgive me for that.
This one is called the Mormon Military Wife, since that is what heavily defines me these days. I actually just started this a week or so ago, because I thought some other women would benefit from shared experiences that I had, have, and will have in the future. It is like a sisterhood in some senses. But I plan on just writing my experiences of being a military wife, more specifically a military pilot’s wife (not that my husband being a pilot makes him better than any other military man or woman, its just different is all).
Thank you, Makamae. Another remarkable woman. Say hello to Makamae in the comments here or at one of her blogs.