I have a love-hate relationship with summer. I will explain.
I love the sunshine and the absence of snow. I love the parks and the leisurely pace and the fun summer family programs. I love the freedom to schedule outings and day trips and vacations completely uninhibited by school calendars. I love building a schedule made up of all the priorities I don’t seem to have room for during the school year. I love my children having time to play outside and play with each other. I love the longer days, and I love that the kids get more playtime with dad. And I love watermelon, strawberries, and popsicles.
Now for the parts that are harder to celebrate. . . . longer days mean later bedtime, and, frankly, after I’ve spent an entire day with all three children by myself, I’d kind of go for a 6 p.m. bedtime. Vacations are fun, but they are hard work. As in, if you’re a mom, the only things that really do “vacate” are your brain and your energy. Plus, has anyone else noticed that children are just really naughty for several days after a vacation? It’s exasperating. I find it difficult to coordinate babysitting or go to appointments or make some time for myself when all my children are at home all day. The gym, for example. (Have I mentioned before that I loathe gym day-care? I have issues.) And since I never have any quiet time during the day, I stay up too late at night wasting my brain on mindless stuff just because I’m relishing my alone time. Oh, and let’s not forget that when siblings get to spend oodles of time together, they fight like cats and dogs.
Sigh. Sorry my cons paragraph seemed quite a bit longer than the pros. I tend to get a little dramatic when I complain. Anyway, in light of this summer paradox, I have a few questions:
- Do you think that maybe there’s a really fine line between children being naughty and children just being annoying? I think I lump it all into the naughty category and get more fed up than I need to be.
- One thing that saves my sanity is scheduled and enforced reading time. My boys are 6 and 8 and both read really well. I’ve found that a lot of books that are at their reading level have kind of inappropriate content. They’re not quite ready for pre-teen literature. Do you have any suggestions for some good chapter books or series for boys?
- Any post-vacation tips? Because, seriously, we have a few more coming up and I don’t know if I can handle the sassy, lazy aftermath.
- We have a lot of great kids in our neighborhood, but I don’t know much about the rules of play date “etiquette.” If a child invites another child to play, is it presumptuous to want to play at the home of the invited? I always think it’s kind of odd when a kid shows up and says, “Can so-and-so play?” and you say yes, and then the kid just comes on in. Oh, you meant here? On the other hand, I know my own children would like to go play at their friends’ houses, too (One word: Wii.), but I never want them to invite themselves over. Am I being weird about this? because I worry that I’m making more of it than I should.
- We like to do several small weekend camping trips during the summer. After Elder Perry’s last general conference talk, I committed myself to make sure that even when we are traveling, we should always go to church and take the sacrament. This past weekend, we took a wrong turn on the way home, lost some time, and didn’t get back in time to take the sacrament. I feel sad about that. I need the sacrament. This is not a question. I’m just saying how it is.
- I’m hoping it’s normal to be in a summer blog slump. I don’t know if there’s less time for writing or if I have less ideas, but I dont’ feel very bloggy productive. And reading blogs? Only minimally. Anyone else feeling that way? I’m sorry if anyone I love has been feeling neglected.
- Last question. Do you have any favorite quotes or scriptures about patience? I’d love to hear/read them.