Today I’m happy to introduce you to Amber. She and I have not met in person (yet), but I’m excited you get the chance to meet her today the same way I did– through her writing. Amber is a kind blog friend who always drops by and leaves nice comments, and whenever I visit her blog, I’m impressed with her candor and her “voice.” She’s been very open about her struggles and personal challenges and I believe her readers feel safe with her. Without further ado, here’s Amber.
Before I begin, I want to thank Stephanie profusely for allowing me to introduce myself to all of you. Stephanie is a wonderful writer who often reminds me to look at the Eternal perspective of motherhood rather than the rather dreary aspects. Thank you, Stephanie! (You’re welcome, Amber. Aw, shucks.)
My name is Amber. I am 23 and married to my high school sweetheart. (Granted, I was in high school and he was, ahem, graduated when we started dating, but I still think it counts.) We married shortly after he returned home from his mission–in which we kept up a correspondence–and made sure to keep things busy from the beginning by having 2 kids within 14 months of each other (Emily, 2 1/2, and Andrew, 15 months). And we were both in school. Trial by fire? We’ve got that covered. As crazy as it can be, I would do it all over again in an instant and we both hope to add more to our brood in the coming years. Right now we hail from the great desert of Utah but will soon be relocating to the Midwest for the wonderful, new adventure of medical school (my husband, not me).
I am from Boise, originally, and came from a large family: I am the second of ten. I was–and am–probably the most motherly of our clan. As soon as I reached a mature age, I was taking care of the little ones as much as I could. I suppose my most positive attribute, then and now, was my ability to put work first. My mother often recounts stories of me cleaning up after both my sisters when we shared a room. Even as I grew older, I would try to complete my chores before reading my books or doing my homework unless my mother excused me from these duties.
As my parents had not considered college, they felt it pertinent that their children not follow in their footsteps and greatly encouraged us to prepare for college at a young age. I knew exactly where I wanted to go by the time I was in 4th grade: BYU. I accomplished this dream and graduated with a BS in Marriage, Family, and Human Development shortly before Andrew was born. Even though it was difficult being a student, mother, and wife I knew I needed to complete my education–no matter the sacrifice.
This attitude of perseverance has helped support me as I support Ben in his school and work aspirations. Though I know our road is a long one, I do believe that in the end it will be worth it if my husband is doing something he really loves.
1. What’s your favorite part of motherhood?
2. What part of motherhood would you subcontract out if you could?
3. Name 2 or 3 items on your “bucket list.” (Some things you’d like to do before you die.)
4. Brag for a minute. Do it. What are a few things that you’re pretty good at?
5. What are you loving lately?
6. Do you have a favorite scripture or quote? Why?
“Rather than being judgmental and critical of each other, may we have the pure love of Christ for our fellow travelers in this journey through life. May we recognize that each one is doing her best to deal with the challenges which come her way, and may we strive to do our best to help out.” President Thomas S. Monson, Relief Society broadcast in October.
7. What do you gravitate toward during your unscheduled time?
8. Tell us some of your best mom-tricks (things you’ve figured out that work well for you).
9. What’s something you don’t usually want people to know about you, but that they need to know if they’re going to be your friend?
First, I am very socially conscious. I often take the perspective of someone who has grown up in different circumstances and with different values when engaging in a serious conversation. I am also very scientific in my conclusions so will poke holes in theories often postulated in the media. Many people find my beliefs “liberal” or “unconventional” but, as cliche as this sounds, I try my hardest to use Jesus as an example for how I think about issues.
Second, I laugh. A lot. Especially when I am uncomfortable. So if we do engage in a serious conversation, I will most likely insert quite a few self-deprecating jokes and laugh at things in a slightly awkward manner. In some ways, this can be very offensive to people. But I am not making fun of other’s opinions when I laugh, it is a nervous habit I’ve developed.
10. If you were in charge of a girls’ night out, what kind of activity would you love to plan?
11. Friends are great for venting. What’s been frustrating you lately?
12. What parts of your testimony are you the most sure of?
Emily’s favorite song is “I Love to See the Temple.” It has become a favorite of mine as well. After I had a recent miscarriage, I took comfort in listening to Emily sing this song over and over again. I know with all my heart that families can be together.
I also know that Heavenly Father cares for each and every one of us. No matter how simple our problems might seem he wants us to come unto Him.
Tell us about your blog:
I blog at Making the Moments Count. I write about my struggles with anxiety and depression; about my intense love for my husband and children; and occasionally about social issues. I also do a weekly meme in which readers are encouraged to write about their triumphs in parenting–whether in philosophy or in specific moments–during the week and link up so we can support and build each other. My main purpose is promoting a community of understanding and support in parenthood so that we can see how various methods work for different people and that there is not one particular way to parent children.
Thanks, Amber! Wasn’t that great? Next week, we’ll meet another new friend. Watch your email inbox; it might be you! If you want to get in on the fun, add a comment on this post. I’ll do a random selection from there every week.