The Moral Force of Women: Some connections

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I’m supposed to be working on my class for tomorrow. I actually am, but I made a cool research discovery, so I wanted to share. For the last couple of days, I’ve been studying Elder D. Todd Christofferson’s most recent conference talk, “The Moral Force of Women.” I’ve long felt that women have a certain power (beyond childbearing) that cannot be duplicated or replaced. It’s not just nurturing (especially in the too-narrow ways we often define it), but it’s more like a binding power. I recently listened to a radio interview with M. Russell Ballard where he claimed that women have a special gift with one-on-one relationships. I’d never thought of that before but I think it’s true, and he said that men can learn a lot from women about that subject if they will watch and listen. Anyway, back to Elder Christofferson’s talk. He said,

“As grandmothers, mothers, and role models, women have been the guardians of the wellspring of life, teaching each generation the importance of sexual purity—of chastity before marriage and fidelity within marriage. In this way, they have been a civilizing influence in society; they have brought out the best in men; they have perpetuated wholesome environments in which to raise secure and healthy children.”*

Something about that quote rang really familiar to me, mostly the phrase “civilizing influence.” Little by little, my old and tired brain started putting pieces together and I remembered it had something to do with Australia. I know. Weird.

So I’ve been trying to research it out and track it down, and–tonight–I found the connection. The whole thing is pretty amazing, but just read this one very cool account as told by Elder Bruce R. Hafen at the World Congress of Families in 1999. By no small coincidence, the title of his speech was “Motherhood and the Moral Influence of Women.”

Consider now, in summary, a true story from Australian history that illustrates the power of women’s moral influence as mothers of hope, women of fidelity, wives of commitment, and nurturers of human ties. In its early decades as a British colony, Australia was a vast wilderness designated as a jail for exiled convicts. Until 1850, six of every seven people who went “down under” from Britain were men. And the few women who went were often convicts or social outcasts themselves. The men ruthlessly exploited them, sexually and in other ways. With few exceptions, these women without hope were powerless to change their conditions.

In about 1840, a reformer named Caroline Chisholm urged that more women would stabilize the culture. She told the British government the best way to establish a community of “great and good people” in Australia: “For all the clergy you can dispatch, all the schoolmasters you can appoint, all the churches you can build, and all the books you can export, will never do much good without . . . ‘God’s police’– wives and little children–good and virtuous women.”

Chisholm searched for women who would raise “the moral standard of the people.” She spent twenty years traveling to England, recruiting young women and young couples who believed in the common sense principles of family life. Over time, these women tamed the men who were taming the wild land; and civil society in Australia gradually emerged. Also, the colonial governments enacted policies that elevated women’s status and reinforced family life.[23] As one historian said, “the initial reluctance of the wild colonial boys to marry was eroded fairly quickly.” Eventually, thousands of new immigrants who shared the vision of these “good and virtuous women” established stable families as the basic unit of Australian society more quickly than had occurred “anywhere else in the Western world.”[24]

This striking story of women’s moral influence grew from a conscious design to replace “the penal colony’s rough and wild ways” with “a more moral civilization.” The reformers intentionally capitalized on women’s innate “civilizing” capacity. [25] These women made Australia a promised land that flowed with a healthy ecosystem of milk and honey. And the milk, literally and figuratively, was mother’s milk–the milk of human kindness. That milk nurtures those habits of the heart without which no civil society can sustain itself.”

I. LOVE. THAT. Innate civilizing capacity. The milk of human kindness. Power. Force. Influence. Elder Christofferson quoted Elder Maxwell (he and this quote are both long-time favorites for me).

“When the real history of mankind is fully disclosed, will it feature the echoes of gunfire or the shaping sound of lullabies? The great armistices made by military men or the peacemaking of women in homes and in neighborhoods? Will what happened in cradles and kitchens prove to be more controlling than what happened in congresses?”

Sigh. I love being a woman. God has made His sons and His daughters powerful. He needs us both, and we can both do more with His help.

*Lest anyone get all worked up into a tizzy about women not being responsible for the morality of men, let’s agree to agree. Later on in his talk, Elder Christofferson acknowledges, “In these exhortations to women, let no one willfully misunderstand. By praising and encouraging the moral force in women, I am not saying that men and boys are somehow excused from their own duty to stand for truth and righteousness, that their responsibility to serve, sacrifice, and minister is somehow less than that of women or can be left to women. Brethren, let us stand with women, share their burdens, and cultivate our own companion moral authority. Dear sisters, we rely on the moral force you bring to the world, to marriage, to family, to the Church.”


10 thoughts on “The Moral Force of Women: Some connections

  1. Stephanie, I agree with you that there is an inherent but real power. I’ve seen it most often in my home. Note: I’m not trying to limit it to that sphere, it’s just that I’m most familiar with it there. When someone is sick or hurt, they want their mom. Period. I can do all the same things and I can be loving and gentle. But it’s not the same. I really believe that there is something there. I can’t define it or quantify it. But I feel that we are equally yoked when it comes to our ability to bless our children. Out of the home, I see the same thing at school all the time. Male and female teachers have unique personal gifts as individuals, but they also do different things as men and women, each bringing real power to their interactions with the students in different ways. Professionally, I spend a great deal of time with and around women, and I see what you say translated into those contexts as well. There is a lot I don’t understand about all the details, but I am convinced that we are each powerful halves of a far, far more powerful whole.

  2. Hi Stephanie,
    Wow. This is awesome! Like you, I love being a woman. I love being a wife. I love being a homemaker. I love growing people (it’s like a super power) although that part is not always very easy or comfortable. But aside from that, there really is a power in being a woman that cannot be replicated or imitated. Whether or not others or we ourselves acknowledge those gifts, it has to be nurtured and protected for the good of mankind (our families, the world, etc). =) Thank you for sharing this. Keep being awesome.

  3. Thank you, I really needed to hear this today. Kids can be tough but, teenagers are rough! I’m grateful to have a great husband who completely agrees with this post.

  4. Yes, yes and yes! A resounding yes!

    My innermost soul burned and sang when I read these words you wrote: “I’ve long felt that women have a certain power (beyond childbearing) that cannot be duplicated or replaced. It’s not just nurturing (especially in the too-narrow ways we often define it), but it’s more like a binding power.” I definitely feel the same way, and strongly. {You and I have always shared this same inner connection since we stumbled upon each others blogs years ago!}

    There is a power we women have. There is a sacred mission here on earth the Lord needs us to do. We must diligently seek to learn and understand and then grasp the immense *power* of faith that lies within us. We must turn to the Lord and follow Him so we can accomplish this mission. There is a distinct reason why in order to be fully exalted there needs to be a male and female sealed together. We need each other. And the Lord needs His valiant women in these Latter-days to do their part.

    Indeed there is a moral force of women and I think we are only beginning to scratch the surface of what it truly entails!

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  7. My sister just emailed me a link to this post and I love it. Thank you so much for sharing your insights. I too, love being a woman!

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