The Mother Well


In November 2009, I had three small children, ages 6, 5, and 3. I had spent about a year in an intense personal journey to gain a better testimony of my role as a mother. One early morning at the gym, my friend and I had a discussion about the pressures of womanhood and motherhood as we huffed and puffed on the treadmill. My mind sifted through scriptures and I began to put together some thoughts that would later become important ingredients in the book I would eventually write. Many experiences like this one polished my understanding of my divine role. Here is what I learned on the treadmill that day.

…. Read the rest over at Real Intent, where I’m guest posting today.

Quotes and Happenings from BYU Women’s Conference Day 2

Day two is over and I’m ready for a good night’s sleep. There were some great classes and talks today and I learned a lot. I also met some really wonderful people. One of the highlights of my day was meeting Annie Henrie, the artist whose work is on the cover of my book, and being able to tell her how much I love her work and how honored I feel to have my work connected to hers. I’m pretty sure we’re BFFs now.  Here are the tweets from today’s lessons, again in reverse chronological order. (And you can still click on the links to see photos, etc.)


  1. Amen! I bear my testimony that God LOVES His daughters. #holyghostsaysso #byuwc #finaltweet

  2. Blessing from Pres. Eyring: You will feel by the Spirit his appreciation for your faithful service as His friend. #byuwc

  3. Can I leave “a glorious spiritual heritage” like John Taylor did? Am I a defender of the prophet? #thoughtsinspiredbyEyring #byuwc

  4. The gift if the HolyGhost in action= the gift he gives all His friends who are offering sanctification. #Eyring #byuwc

  5. The Lord’s power is greater than all the forces that that oppose His faithful servants. #Eyring #byuwc

  6. The Lord protects, guides, and watches over those who are His trusted friends. #Eyring #byuwc

  7. The friend of God is one for whom the Savior died. #Eyring #bookofjohn #byuwc

  8. There are physical and spiritual dangers for us and those we love. We will need divine protection. #presEyring #byuwc

  9. Gathering at the feet of a living prophet, seer, revelator. Waiting to hear Pres. Eyring. #thegospelisrestored #byuwc    View photo

  10. Singing all the longest hymns we know while Pres. Eyring is stuck in traffic. #waitingontheLord #byuwc   View photo

  11. Just because I can’t do it today doesn’t mean I can’t do it someday. #carlahansen #byuwc

  12. The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The 2nd best time to plant a tree is today. # chineseproverb # carlahansen #byuwc

  13. The Lord needs healthy servants. He needs us to run and not be weary. #carlahansen #byuwc

  14. Count your blessings, not your blemishes. #katiedavis #byuwc

  15. You are worth more than a number on a scale. Your weight is not what defines you. #katiedavis #byuwc

  16. If you have a relationship you want to improve, try taking them for a walk. #katiedavis #byuwc

  17. D&C 59:19 Food enlivens the soul. Food is not the enemy. #katiedavis #byuwc

  18. Men can learn. Men can be taught. They don’t learn from criticism. They learn from a constant, elevating vision. #brosandberg #byuwc

  19. Making love begins in the kitchen. (Do the dishes.) #sandbergs #byuwc

  20. When we nurture love and friendship and marriage, we create a safe haven and a secure base. #sandbergs #byuwc

  21. “Pray for the love which allows you to see the good in your companion.” #eldernelson #sandbergs #byuwc

  22. When we love Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ, it’s manifest in the choices we make. #michelleking #byuwc

  23. In marriage, we have to avoid negativity just like we avoid pornography. #paraphrased #sandbergs #byuwc

  24. Charity is a state of becoming. It is a way of life that takes a lifetime to achieve. #michelleking #byuwc

  25. We become better and not bitter as we humble ourselves. #michelleking #byuwc

  26. “The most common problem in marriage is DRIFT. Life will do that to you if you are not intentional.” #sandbergs #byuwc

  27. “If you want something to last forever, you treat it different.” #elderhoward #sandbergs #byuwc




Quotes and Happenings from BYU Women’s Conference Day 1

Whew. I’ve been women’s conferencing since I left my house at 7:15 this morning. I’m the good kind of tired. Before I sign off for the night, I wanted to share some of favorites from the day, courtesy of my Twitter account. Today is seriously the first day I’ve ever really used it for real– to “tweet” about something as it’s happening. Since I haven’t figured out how to cut and paste this in reverse, just note that the top of the list is the end of the day and the bottom of the list is the beginning of the day. Reverse chronological order. Got it?  I’ll be tweeting more tomorrow, but probably not quite as often because 1) I have my book signing for a couple hours in the morning, and 2) it was harder work than I thought it would be.  Behold my glorious Thursday:

(If you click on the links, it will take you to photos, etc.)


  1. Hilary Weeks is the goods. Her love song “I Found Me” made me want to go home and kiss my husband on the lips. #byuwc #deseretbookconcert

  2. At Deseret Book concert with Sandra Turley singing “For Good” from Wicked #byuwc #deseretbook #wickedthemusical

  3. When all these groups of women walk across campus, I think to myself, “THIS is God’s Army.” #weareallenlisted #byuwc

  4. Because God loves us, He labors to make us loveable. #kevinworthen #byuwc

  5. Eternal love is so much a characteristic of what makes God God that the apostle Paul taught, “God IS love.” #kevinworthen #byuwc

  6. Sometimes when we are stretched by our children, we find that we are capable of doing more than we thought we could. #peggyworthen #byuwc

  7. Sometimes we don’t have time to fast and pray; sometimes we only have time to pray fast. #paraphrased #peggyworthen #byuwc

  8. Family is ordained of God. It is the most important unit in time and in eternity. #churchhandbook #peggyworthen #byuwc

  9. Beautiful piano/cello duet, “Lead kindly light.” Wish you could hear it. #ldshymns #byuwc

  10. A loving Heavenly Father listens to our prayers and inspires us what to do to reach a particular child. #sisCallister #pHicken #byuwc

  11. Keep in mind that children don’t need perfect mothers; children need human mothers that can manage their humanness #motherstylesbook #byuwc

  12. Teenagers speak another language. Like the brother of Jared, pray to the Lord to not confound their language. #juliegowans #byuwc

  13. One of the best ways to develop patterns of communication with our children is to build relationships with them. #juliegowans #byuwc

  14. If the Savior is my greatest champion, am I His? #AMtoone #byuwc

  15. Heavenly Father expects his daughters to use their influence to change the world, one individual and one family at a time. #AMtoone #byuwc

  16. Christ gives righteous women more lasting influence than women of the world, especially at the individual and family level. #AMtoone #byuwc

  17. Christ demonstrated deep familiarity with women’s lives. He appreciated them and ennobled them. #DMK #annemarietoone #byuwc

  18. Don’t measure your worth or your day by society’s standards. #cherylsavage #byuwc

  19. This is my stage and my season. I am a warrior. #cherylsavage #byuwc

  20. You can’t make children behave better by making them feel worse #heatherstephenson #byuwc

  21. “Grant me the patience to deal with my little blessings” #heatherstephenson #byuwc

  22. Sometimes your kids don’t need you in their face; they just need you by their side. #aprilmoody #byuwc

  23. When we live a righteous life, our presence becomes a powerful influence. #aprilmoody #byuwc

  24. I can control what my presence brings to my family.”If you want peace, yours is the responsibility to obtain it.” -McKay #aprilmoody #byuwc

  25. Who we are is more important than what we do. Our presence matters. #aprilmoody #byuwc

  26. Apparently there are alot of us who need a class about controlling our temper. 🙂 #byuwc

  27. Embrace and own the lives we are given. Find ways to make them useful. #elainemarshall #byuwc

  28. You cannot live your life in Gethsemane. Jesus was already there. #elainemarshall #byuwc

  29. The grace is already there; we might as well show up. #elainemarshall #byuwc

  30. Elaine S. Marshall: All we have to do is press forward with joy to have the only promise we really need: the Lord is with us. #byuwc

  31. I will be live-tweeting from BYU Women’s conference today. Feel free to follow along. It will almost be as good… 

  32. Sister Linda K Burton: The Lord will be with us even unto the end as we do our part as daughters in the kingdom. #byuwc

  33. Let’s get this party started. Loving crowds of good women. #byuwc